Regrets: These are 5 things people regret as they get older…
It’s part of life that as we age, the feeling of having missed out on something catches up with us. For some people, this can be a daunting thought. But there are five things that should really upset us as we age.
Bronnie Ware, a former caregiver, has accompanied many people at the end of life on their final journey. In her book “5 things dying people regret most”, she listed what many people regret at the end of their lives.
No second chance for first love, too little travel or too little time spent with family – there are many things in life we regret for different reasons. But what do older people regret most?
Most common thoughts on regret: time
The biggest obstacle we face is time and how we use it effectively. Often, we put off tasks or projects for another day, only to regret later that we didn’t spend more time with our loved ones. Then we say to ourselves: “I really wish I’d done that more”.
Australian Bronnie Ware has spent years accompanying dying people on their final journey and listening to them carefully. Her book focuses on the thoughts and concerns of these people just before they die:
1. foreign expectations
“I wish I’d had the courage to lead a life that suited me and not the life others expected of me”.
Many people make others happy, except themselves. Are you happy with what you’re doing, or is it just what’s expected of you? Live the life YOU want before it’s too late and you’re full of regrets.
2. work
“I wish I hadn’t worked so hard”.
Sure, you have to earn money, but does it make you happy? Are you perhaps working too hard and neglecting your family? If so, it’s better to pull the cord sooner rather than later and redefine your priorities.
3. Express your feelings
“I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings“.
Whether it’s pride, shame or fear, we often get in our own way when it comes to expressing our feelings. How can others know what you want if you don’t tell them? Before you regret it later: always talk openly and honestly with those around you.
4. too little time for friends
“I’d like to keep in touch with my friends”.
Everyday life often takes its toll: family, work or moving house can cause you to lose touch with your friends. Time goes by, and no one keeps in touch. But most of the time, we think a lot about the good old days. The next time you think about it: just tell old acquaintances about you! It’ll be worth it.
5. Head over heart
“I wish I’d allowed myself to be happier”.
Often, reason overrides our heart. The time for change is never perfect; sometimes we have to force ourselves to be happy. A life without pleasure and fulfillment is an empty life. So think about what really makes you happy and tackle it NOW! One day, it will be too late.
Look for the things that weigh you down in the present and tackle them to create your happy future without regrets! Are there things you already regret?
